Why Do People Have Trust Issues?
Trust is the act of placing confidence in someone or something else. It is a critical part of any relationship. It is impossible to have a healthy and long lasting relationship if there is no trust in there. However, there are some people who do not easily put their trust in their partner or interlocutor. For a moment, it is necessary, but what if the difficulty of trusting becomes an issue that has a negative impact on the relationship?
Trust issue is a state in which a person finds it difficult to believe what he/she sees and hears. People with trust issue do not believe what other people say or are suspicious of what other people want of them. They will question someone’s intentions and motivations in doing something. This of course will be difficult to develop a more intimate relationship with others. In an existing relationship, if the trust issue persists, it can lead to conflict and poor communication between partners.
Then, what causes someone to have a trust issue? Why do some people have such a hard time putting their trust in others?
1. Experience of betrayal. People who have had a relationship with another person. They are in a relationship they believe in with all their heart and they put their full trust in their partners. Unfortunately, suddenly their partners betrayed them.
2. Social rejection. This happens with people who experience rejection several times in their social environment. Every time they want to have a relationship with someone else, they often get rejected by that person without knowing the exact reason.
3. Childhood trauma. As children, they may have witnessed trust problems that happened to their parents. This obviously will provide trauma that makes them feel they will experience the same as their parents did.
Life experience is the main reason why people easily have trust issues. Fear of repeating bad experiences that have happened, makes them limit their beliefs. So if this has happened, is there a way to rebuild that trust?
1. Talk about your trust issue. When you start to have trouble trusting other people, you can talk about it to them. You can express your insecurities and question things that you don’t think are clear. This of course is better than keeping it to yourself until it causes negative thoughts that bother you.
2. Build trust slowly. It may not be easy to trust others. You do not have to do this right away. You can slowly open yourself up to other people and try to trust them from the little things they say.
3. Contact an expert. If you are in a situation that really makes it hard for you to trust other people, it might be time to see a therapist. They are professionals who will help and guide you to overcome your trust issue.
In social life, we are required to be careful and critical in receiving any information or treatment from others. However, we also must have control over what things we can understand and what we have to look for deeper into the truth. Do not let our excessive worries and trust issue attitudes interfere with our good relations with other people.
-Northern Ingo-
