To the Dearest Princesses Out There
It might be more risky to raise children in today’s era. The life when it takes place not only in the real world but also in cyberspace. With the widespread of smart phones and the rise of social media, parents will be more anxious and think about how to be the proper one for their children.
The concern that arises is likely to be felt by parents to their daughters far more. This was delivered by a mother named Toni Hammer at the time when her daughter started her kindergarten. Learning from her experiences, she didn’t want her little princess to grow up in the feelings that kept her from being herself.
Here are some worth advices we can take from Hammer’s letter to her daughter:
1. Don’t say ‘sorry to be such a pain.’ You’re not a pain. You’re a person with thoughts and feelings who deserves respect. Everyone must make mistakes, so do you. But it doesn’t necessarily mean that you were born for being such a pain. Learn from the mistakes and forgive yourself. That’s the right way to give respect as you deserve.
2. Don’t make up reasons as to why you can’t go out with a guy you don’t wanna go out with. You don’t owe anyone an explanation. A simple ‘no thanks’ should be acceptable. Some people may invite you to do such a thing. However, it is your right either to accept or reject it. Without feeling unduly guilty, a well-conveyed rejection is more than enough to express your disinterest.
3. Don’t stay home because you don’t have anyone to go out with. Take yourself out. Have experiences by yourself and for yourself. Sometimes it might be fun to go out with friends. But there is one thing you must keep in mind that it is normal for being alone. If you have already planned your trip, go and enjoy it even it’s just you and the road.
4. Don’t hold back your tears. Crying means you’re feeling something that needs to get out. It’s not a weakness. It’s being human. Cry if you need to. Don’t care too much about what others say. Everyone has their own sadness that only them who understand.
5. Don’t hide your opinions. Speak up and speak loudly. You should be heard. Convey your feelings, tell them when you feel uncomfortable, and share your brilliant ideas.
6. Don’t apologize for being who you are. Be brave and bold and beautiful. Be unapologetically you. Like God made His creation perfect, you’re also the best of yourself. Be proud and give as much love as you deserve.
Regardless whom this letter is addressed to, we can just take them as valuable advices and also a self-reminder to be our best. Life is indeed difficult, equity may be hard to achieve and the world might be more terrifying. However, don’t forget to shine with your brightest light and be brave for being who you are.
-Northern Ingo-
