Get To Know Your Partner Through Love Language
The love experienced by two lovers is certainly a beautiful feeling for both of them. However, feeling does not seem to be enough. Both sides must be expecting a kind of act which is how the feeling is conveyed. Unfortunately, it is very possible for everyone to have a different way of how to convey their feelings. So is what is expected. Everyone may expect a certain treatment from their partner, in some cases, without having to tell. So will this work as well as expected? Can someone really give their partner what they want? Or can a person really get what they expect from their partner?
Gary Chapman, firstly wrote “The 5 Love Languages” in 1992. He noticed that couples often have misunderstandings about each other’s needs. So it is not the feeling that fades or disappears, it is just that each has a different way of conveying love which unfortunately this is not realized by their partner. Based on this phenomenon, Chapman came up with five love languages as the ways of how people in relationship express love.
1. Words of Affirmation
This is about expressing love verbally. People with this love language tend to enjoy kind words to convey their feelings to their partners. They will keep saying “I love you”, complimenting their partners, verbal encouragement, giving love notes or sending romantic text messages.
2. Quality Time
People with this love languages always want to be the one and only for their partners every time they are together. Having time that is only focused on being spent together without any distraction from other parties. They will ask you to put down the cell phone, turn off the television and make eye contact while having a deep conversation.
3. Physical Touch
Physical affection becomes the primary love language of this person. It is not always about sex but holding hands, kissing right on the forehead, or even giving a massage at the end of the day. If physical touch is your partner’s love language, they probably will not be able to live away from you.
4. Acts of Service
“Actions speak louder than words” might become a motto for people with this love language. The people will focus on specific action to make their partners feel loved by them. Acts of service often found as a love language for people who are known as ‘surrender’ in a relationship. They might be ignorant but always there to give their best.
5. Receiving Gifts
It is not necessarily means materialistic, gift-giving might become a symbolic of love. People with this love language will not expect or focus on an expensive gift but more to what is behind the gift that appeals to their partners. When your partner picks out a gift for you, it tells you that your partner really knows you well.
From the different love languages above, we know that everyone has their own way of expressing their feelings. In order not to cause misunderstanding, it is important for couples to know each other’s love language. That way, both partners can respect each other about what they like and do not like in the relationship they are in.
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